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Rodney & June

I’m surprised at myself for not writing about Rodney and June Higgs before now. My story with the Higgs shows that a chance meeting can create lifelong connections. In February, 1985, I left the USA for what would turn out to be a 13 month, 8 country, adventure. I was awarded a Rotary Foundation Scholarship […]

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David’s meeting Rodney and June Higgs was due to a wonderful set of circumstances, some of which were due to David’s intelligence and personality and others of which were due to serendipitous events.  David’s intelligence led him to graduate from college with honors, which then led him to earn a scholarship to attend one of […]

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Reactions to lipstick

As a social psychologist, I am almost always observing human behavior. Call it an occupational hazard or whatever else you want, but I enjoy watching people and their reactions to everyday experiences. One of the most fun things I enjoy observing is the way men react to women’s lipstick. I, like many women, enjoy wearing […]

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I have never analyzed this aspect of human behavior.  I’ve just found the lipstick to be sticky so I didn’t really like how it felt.  Beyond that, I always figured coming home with lipstick was a dangerous and risky activity.  This blog appears to give me permission to be more like Buddy.  He taught me, […]

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Speak Up

Melissa and I recently had an experience that reinforced the value of speaking up. You might benefit from our experience. We’re members of a wine club which includes monthly wine tasting opportunities. Due to the COVID-19 shutdown, the tastings were suspended, but we’re still paying for them, thus, the club came up with a scheme […]

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David almost always speaks up.  He has been speaking up about things for a long time.  He told me about speaking up, in the form of challenging one of his teachers about unfair test grading, when he was a child.  David often speaks up, not only on his behalf, but on the behalf of other […]

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Pie Power

John Lennon wrote a great song called “Power to the People.” Norman Vincent Peale wrote many books about the “power of positive thinking.” There are a lot of phrases, movements, and other social issues related to power. But, until recently, I had never considered Pie Power. What is Pie Power? Pie Power is my term […]

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Pie Power – an excuse to bring a few smiles in turbulent times.  And, the times were turbulent when we (I should say when Melissa) conceived of the Pie Power pandemic loosening campaign.  Loosening of the restrictions, that is.  (Then the world got more turbulent; perhaps more pies are now needed.)  The tensions in the […]

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Make Your Own Luck

I don’t consider myself to be “lucky.” I’ve never won the lottery, well, maybe $4 at a time. And, while I know I’m “fortunate” in many ways, “lucky” isn’t how I’d describe it. I work hard, and have always done so, through school and in business. This week has been a week to reflect on […]

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David is one of the smartest people I know.  That’s one reason I like him!  Even when David was a teenager and recent high school graduate, he had the intelligence, not to mention foresight, to introduce himself to the President of Jacksonville University on, as it turns out, his first day on campus.  Call it […]

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Changes aren’t permanent, but change is

The title to this post is taken from a line in the Rush song, Tom Sawyer (1981, Moving Pictures). “He knows changes aren’t permanent, But change is…” I’m hopeful that, by the time this post is published, we are all adjusting to a new normal. As I write it, we do not know what that […]

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This is the last in the long list of posts David and I have written about the COVID-19 pandemic of 2020.  Hooray!  I, like everyone else, will be ecstatic to be able to move on with my life as soon as possible.  Along these lines, I believe it will be important for all of us […]

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“I’ll be there on time if…”

Magnus Research Consultants has, for many years, employed on a part time basis people who work with us exclusively on research days. We call our wonderful part time staff members Research Technicians because they handle numerous technical aspects of our research, including video camera operation, video editing, and oversight of our mock jurors. The majority […]

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I never thought I’d get schooled in racism along the way when hiring employees.  But, it has happened!  While Melissa has observed more of these racist incidents directly than have I, ensuring that our team is not negatively impacted by these experiences has forced me into some uncomfortable roles, and required some creativity.  With regard […]

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Four Types of People During Crises

Since the beginning of the isolation era mandated by COVID-19, the America Psychological Association (APA) has been sending daily emails to its members, including me. I have read all of them and although many of them do not apply to me, due to the fact they concern how to provide psychological therapy to patients via […]

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I think the pressures of COVID-19 have shown cracks in our societies in ways never before seen.  Whether in the political leaders who were “caught with their pants down,” or the fringe members of the public who are, on the one side, out in force with guns exposed demanding the freedom to die, or, on […]

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Loners Like Alone Time

Some people live alone due to circumstances in their life, for example, the death of a spouse, divorce, being a single parent when the last child moves out of the house, etc. Other people truly like to be alone. George Harrison’s first song, written in 1963, was titled “Don’t Bother Me” and famously contains the […]

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In the current time of forced social distancing, it seems that some people have quickly become more distant than others.  I think of friends who live alone and who, most of the time are happy or comfortable with it.  But, forced isolation for many people has become more constricting.  Under “normal” or at least usual, […]

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Wellness Checks

Wellness checks is something normally thought about to only involve the “homebound” or the elderly, the sick, and the frail. Well, we’re all homebound now, in some way or another, and, while we may or may not be sick, elderly, or frail, we are cloistered in abnormal ways. Quarantine, sequestration, call it what you will, […]

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I am writing this post approximately one month into our social distancing, isolation, quarantine, and solitary confinement situations.  I am a person who has a lot of friends, but as of today, only ONE of my friends, including long time, childhood friends, has contacted me to check on my well being. (This doesn’t include people […]

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